2007-11-09

Vad attraherar en våldtäktsman?

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A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interviewed on what they look for in a potential victim and here are some interesting facts:

1) The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle. They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun, braid or other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed. They are also likely to go after a woman with long hair. Women with short hair are not common targets.

2) The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for women who's clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry scissors around specifically to cut clothing.

3) They also look for women on their cell phone, searching through their purse, or doing other activities while walking because they are off-guard and can be easily overpowered.

4) Men are most likely to attack & rape in the early morning, between 5:00 a.m. and 8:30 a.m..

5) The number one place women are abducted from/attacked is grocery store parking lots. Number two: is office parking lots/garages. Number three: is public restrooms.

6) The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman and quickly move her to another location where they don't have to worry about getting caught.

7) Only 2% said they carried weapons because rape carries a 3-5 year sentence but rape with a weapon is 15-20 years.

8) If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged because it only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going after you isn't worth it because it will be time-consuming.

9) These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas, or other similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their hands. Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really close to the attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince these guys you're not worth it.

10) Several defense mechanisms he taught us are: If someone is following behind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a question, like what time is it, or make general small talk: "I can't believe it is so cold out here, we're in for a bad winter." Now you've seen their face and could identify them in a line-up; you lose appeal as a target.

11) If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front of you and yell STOP or STAY BACK! Most of the rapists this man talked to said they'd leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would not be afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking for an EASY target.

12) If someone grabs you, you can't beat them with strength but you can by outsmarting them. If you are grabbed around the waist from behind, pinch the attacker either under the arm (between the elbow and armpit) OR in the upper inner thigh VERY VERY HARD. One woman in a class this guy taught told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date rape her and was so upset she broke through the skin and tore out muscle strands - the guy needed stitches. Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can stand> it - it hurts.

13) After the initial hit, always GO for the GROIN. I know from a particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy's parts it is extremely painful. You might think that you'll anger the guy and make him want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause a lot of trouble. Start causing trouble and he's out of there.

14) When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers and bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing down on them as possible. The instructor did it to me without using much pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked audibly.

15) Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware of your surroundings, take someone with you if you can and if you see any odd behavior, don't dismiss it, go with your instincts!!! You may feel a little silly at the time, but you'd feel much worse if the guy really was trouble.

Tip from Tae Kwon Do:

1 . The elbow is the strongest point on your body. If you are close enough to use it, do!

2. Learned this from a tourist guide in New Orleans. If a robber asks for your wallet and/or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM. Toss it away from you....chances are that he is more interested in your wallet and/or purse than you, and he will go for the wallet/purse. RUN LIKE MAD IN THE OTHER DIRECTION!

3. If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car, kick out the back tail lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like crazy. The driver won't see you, but everybody else will. This has saved lives.

4. Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping, eating, working, etc, and just sit (doing their checkbook, or making a list, etc.) DON'T DO THIS! The predator will be watching you, and this is the perfect opportunity for him to get in on the passenger side, put a gun to your head, and tell you where to go. AS SOON AS YOU GET INTO YOUR CAR, LOCK THE DOORS AND LEAVE.
If someone is in the car with a gun to your head DO NOT DRIVE OFF, repeat: DO NOT DRIVE OFF! Instead gun the engine and speed into anything, wrecking the car. Your Air Bag will save you. If the person is in the back seat they will get the worst of it. As soon as the car crashes bail out and run. It is better than having them find your body in a remote location.

5. A few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot or parking garage:
A.) Be aware: look around you, look into your car, at the passenger side floor, and in the back seat.
B.) If you are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the passenger door Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling them into their vans while the women are attempting to get into their cars.
C.) Look at the car parked on the driver's side of your vehicle, and the passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car, you may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and get a guard/policeman to walk you back out.
IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY. (And better paranoid than dead.)

6. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs. (Stairwells are horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot. This is especially true at NIGHT!)

7. If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control, ALWAYS RUN! The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in 100 times. And even then, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ. RUN, preferably in a zigzag pattern!

8. As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic: STOP! It may get you raped or killed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good-looking, well-educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies of unsuspecting women. He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often asked "for help" into his vehicle or with his vehicle, which is when he abducted his next victim.

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5 kommentarer:

Anne sa...

Öde, stora tomma offentliga toaletter tycker jag är läskiga och har många gånger tänkt att tänk om nån attackerar mig här inne och drar iväg med mig. Det skrämmer mig nästan mer än parkeringsgarage (som jag i och för sig inte gillar heller). Att stå parkerad bredvid en stor van, det brukar jag undvika, kanske jag sett för många filmer... Men en mörk, stor bil trångt parkerad bredvid sin lilla, dessutom om det är mörkt och kväll och rätt öde. Jag ryser vid bara tanken.

Ted bundy ja, du har kanske sett den där urgamla filmen om honom och hur han lurade sin offer. Jag såg förresten nyligen Criminal Minds-avsnittet som du tidigare skrev om (det med den stiliga unga mannen som ringde på med en skadad katt i famnen). Fruktansvärt obehagligt avsnitt! Men hur lätt är det inte släppa in en välklädd och till synes trevlig person som står där med ett skadat djur...

Jag fick tidigare lära mig (i skolan) att i Sverige är det extremt ovanligt med våldtäkter inomhus, alltså våldtäktsmän som bryter sig in och våldtar kvinnan i hennes hem. Men i USA är detta fenoment betydligt vanligare, jag frågade vad detta berodde på men fick inget bra svar faktiskt.

Dosiss sa...

Fy sjutton vad läskigt. Det verkar som om de flesta vâldtäkter begâs pâ svenska kvinnor som har druckit alkohol och som därför inte har sinnesnärvaro att försvara sig. Jag har inte lust att ta reda pâ om min teori stämmer med statistiken.

Saltistjejen sa...

Oj, om man läser de här råden blir man ju helt uppjagad....
Hittills har jag iallafall aldrig känt mig rädd när jag gått runt vare sig i Stockholm eller NYC. Men visst, man bör väl vara hufsta "förståndig" såklart och i vissa fall är det ju klart bättre att ta en taxi än att gå.

Annika sa...

Usch och usch...
Jag känner mig inte heller rädd vare sig här eller i Sthlm, men man VET ju aldrig.
Tror att stavgång kan vara bra på mer än ett sätt. Skulle man bli överfallen har man dom att slåss med...
Grymma tid.

Desiree sa...

Bra tips. Viktigt att tänka på. Läskigt men bra att vara medveten. tack för att du tog dig tid att skriva ner detta och tips oss andra. Sedan får man hoppas att man aldrig kommer att behöva andvända några av dessa tips.